Jennifer Waddle
1. Talk about Your Struggles Openly
A big part of helping someone overcome a sin issue is to let the other person know you struggle as well. By opening up about past and present temptations, you’re letting your spouse know you’re “in it together,” and you can empathize with them.
Even Jesus can empathize with our weaknesses as Hebrews 4:15 says, “For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are—yet he did not sin.”
Talking about our struggles openly invites our spouses to share their temptations and lean on us for understanding. Through healthy communication, we’ll be able to offer timely wisdom and practical solutions to help them overcome sin issues.
2. Listen Without Judgment
Talking usually comes easier than listening. Especially when there is conflict, we might have a lot to say about our spouse’s flaws. However, listening can be a more powerful way to connect and help our spouse overcome sin.
The Bible says, “all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God.” (Romans 3:23) Therefore, there should be no judgment when our spouse struggles with sin, but rather an understanding that the flesh is constantly trying to get what it wants.
Listening without judgment is one of the most loving things you can do as a spouse. When you practice listening more than talking, you will create an atmosphere of safety and trust. And a grace-filled attitude will be more helpful to your spouse than you know.
Here are a few ways to become a better listener:
3. Ask How You Can Help
It’s easy to offer unsolicited advice or untimely opinions without ever asking what will be most helpful to our spouses. But imagine our spouse’s surprise when, instead of giving them a to-do list of solutions, we simply offer to help in any way we can.
Here are a few thoughtful questions to consider:
· What would be most helpful to you right now?
· What habits are contributing to sin, and is there any way I can help you change those habits?
· Is there anything I can do differently to make your journey easier?
· What steps can we take together to grow closer to God?
Asking how you can help will go a long way in assuring your spouse you are there for them and willing to do what it takes. Remember, you can’t overcome sin for them, but you can ask the right questions to encourage and support them.
4. Pray Hard
God can and does deliver people from sin every day. There are beautiful testimonies of His miraculous work through the most difficult of circumstances. But sometimes, overcoming sin takes time, and the faithful prayers of the saints become a crucial part of the process.
When helping your spouse overcome sin, pray hard for them. Set aside regular time to intercede and seek God’s help on their behalf. Consider reading the Scriptures aloud, diverting the enemy’s arrows by the powerful Word of God.
المقال حلو لأنه بيتكلم عن أزاي أساعد شريك حياتي في أنه يتغلب على خطية بيصارع معاها. الكاتبة بتشجع كل طرف يقوم بدوره صح (الطرف اللى واقع في الخطية بتشجعه ينفتح ويخرج اللى في قلبه ويدي مساحة لتدخل شريكه قبول المساعدة، وبتشجع الشريك أنه يسمع من غير إدانة وأزاي يقدم مساعدة عملية بجانب التشفع في الصلاة لأجل الآخر) وبتورينا الكاتبة قد ايه ده بيعمق العلاقة وبيأكد على الوحدة.
