Trust Her
(Proverbs 31:11-12) promises much gain for the husband when he trusts his wife with his heart. This gain in life does not last a day or even a year, but a lifetime.
Trust issues thwart any relationship, but especially the intimacy of a marriage. If she is out to dinner with her friends, do not call or text her incessantly. Further, if she leaves her phone on the kitchen table, do not use the passcode she entrusted you with for the purpose of checking her call history or text messages.
Love Her Emotionally
In (Ephesians 5:25) the husband is to love his wife “just as Christ loved the church.” The church is the bride of Christ and loves it as the husband should love his wife.
Christ doesn’t love the church because of an inherent obligation to do so. He displays an unconditional love of delight and is dedicated to its success.
When the husband loves his wife in this manner, it reflects a great commitment to her.
Feed Her Spirit
As mentioned earlier, we are commanded to love our wife just as Christ loved the church. Further, we are to love our wives as our own bodies. In (Ephesians 5:29), Paul explained, “after all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church.”
We care for the health of our own bodies by eating a healthy diet and exercise regularly. Similarly, we should feed our relationship with our wife.
If she is not spiritually happy and healthy, the marriage is not spiritually happy and healthy. It requires a healthy diet. If the desire is to inquire about the “grass being greener on the other side,” consider whether you have been watering your side of the fence.
Invest Time In Her
In (Deuteronomy 24:5), the recently married man was not sent to war or required to have any other duty except “for one year he is to be free to stay home and bring happiness to the wife he has married.”
Interestingly during this time, the husband was not only free from military service, but also free from the obligations of all tributes, taxes, public offices, and jobs. His sole responsibility was to nurture his relationship with his wife.
Today, we may get a week or two off from work before and after our wedding for a honeymoon, but it is important to dedicate those first few months to the relationship and allow “healthy roots” to take hold.
Be Thankful For Her
We inherit material possessions and wealth from our parents, but (Proverbs 19:14) tells us that a “prudent wife is from the Lord.” A good wife cannot be bought or taken from someone else. She is only in our life because of the blessing of God.
Any man can have a wife, but only God gives the “prudent wife.” John Gill in his “Exposition of the Bible” describes the prudent wife as one who “behaves well to her husband, manages the affairs of house with wisdom, and brings up her children in all orderly manner.” In other words, she treats her husband like a king, keeps a clean house, and rears respectful children.
The “prudent wife” is truly a blessing from God and she should be regarded as such.
