Carrie Lowrance
Falling in love is one of the greatest feelings in the world. You’ve found this person who you connect with, you have a lot in common, and have a lot of fun together. Weeks turn to months and then years, and you still love spending time together. Then he pops the question, and you are happier than you have ever been – until you’re not.
Here are some signs that you need to call off your engagement.
Lying
My ex-fiancee would lie to me about many things, big and small. He would lie about small things, like when he needed to be home from a date. (While he was living in the group home, he had to be home by a certain time.) He would also lie about what hours he was working, so if I dropped by to see him, he wouldn’t be there.
Then there were the big lies he told, one so awful about one of his family members that it still haunts me to this day. Of course, there was also the fact that he was cheating on me for I’m not sure how long.
Using You
Another thing this guy would do is use me. Back then, I didn’t realize this or think anything of it because I love doing things for people. I was also young and naïve. My point is I would pay for everything. Everything. Even though he worked, he never paid for any dates we went on. He never put gas in my car, and I drove us everywhere.
I spent a good chunk of money on him for our first and only Christmas because I knew he never had a good Christmas. Most of his stuff got stolen (so he said) by his roommates at the group home, and I think it’s because the others were jealous of him.
Manipulation
This person would manipulate me from time to time. I remember one night when he wanted to see me, so I drove a half hour to see him for all of fifteen minutes. It was around 9:00 or 10:00 p.m.
Uncomfortable Parents
I met his dad twice, and we spoke on the phone a few times. We visited him once, and although everything was okay, something about him creeped me out. Looking back, it was almost like he was interested in me. I remember him saying something like how beautiful I was during a phone conversation. Um, no, thank you.
Their Parents Don’t Like You
Let me start by saying that there are many situations where parents aren’t fond of the person their son or daughter is marrying. However, most of the time, they figure out how to deal with it tactfully.
My dad’s parents didn’t like my mom at all because she didn’t come from money. They wanted him to marry someone else he had dated before her.
Temper Tantrums
Your partner’s temper tantrums may indicate immaturity or other hidden issues, and this behavior can lead to serious trouble. This is a sign of immaturity but also may be a sign of other hidden issues. My mom said my dad threw a fit because he had to pay five dollars for their
Secrets
They are hiding darker secrets, some of which can be dealt with and overcome, while others cannot. Things like already being married, lying about having a boyfriend or girlfriend, or not being divorced yet are definitely reasons to call off an engagement.
Other issues, like drugs, alcohol, or other addictions, depend on the situation. Things could work out if the person acknowledges their addiction and commits to seeking help. If not, then this would be a reason to call off an engagement.
Poor Communication
Having good communication is important in a relationship. If you have trouble compromising, arguing, or your fiance is overly critical, it may be time to call off your engagement.
